My last day of vacation is tomorrow... it has been long and wonderful. I've been off since 1/9 and just found out today that tomorrow is a work holiday for me thus a bonus day of vacation!
We went to Orlando for the first 5 days of our vacay, initially planning to run a race (discussed here), but shin splints and then babies got in the way of those plans so we just hung out in Florida instead. We rented a house with my brother-in-law, SIL (the crazy), and their 3 children. I was worried about this trip, that it would be anything but relaxing. All I can say is thank god I was pregnant. Between my SIL's neuroses and new 4 month old baby and the general number of babies and pregnant women in Orlando I would not have survived this trip 6 months ago.
As I've explained before my SIL talks a lot and in the process says many moronic and obliviously hurtful things. She was the only one when we announced we were having twins to ask, "And not through fertility treatments or anything?" Which I have to admit was better than "Do twins run in your family?" but I still felt was a bit intrusive. I had no trouble telling her the truth especially since she had been so ignorant about infertility when I was struggling the most during our visit with them a year ago. As we talked about my pregnancy and the twins this week she actually said, "Yea, I've had multiple friends have twins through IVF and infertility treatments but I just really don't know much about that since we got pregnant on our first, third, and first tries." Really?! If you have so many friends with fertility issues maybe you should find some more empathy for them and for us.
Ahhh... okay enough ranting now just had to share my frustration. I don't think the hubby always understands why this gets to me. It always will. I don't want people to experience infertility and I know that we got through it easier than many but I do expect people to have a degree of common sense and love and empathy toward their family members/friends.
Otherwise the trip was great. My nephew and nieces are pretty awesome kids and I got a hefty baby fix with their little one giggling at me and falling asleep on my chest. The hubby and I had enough alone time to keep my sanity intact. We went to Animal Kingdom (I had never been to any Disney parks) and it was pretty amazing. They have a safari which was really cool (we are definitely zoo people) and the Bug's Life 4D movie was fun too. Then I surprised myself. We watched the parade of all the characters through the park at the end of the day and I got a little choked up. I have never been too into Disney but there was something magical about it and I just stood there thinking about how unbelievably lucky we are to be able to share this (and all the other amazing sights in this world) with our kids in the future. I don't think I will ever take for granted this gift we have been given.
In other news, we decided to forego any prenatal testing. I had CF carrier testing and was negative before we started trying to conceive but from what I've read the Tri/Quad Screen blood tests can be falsely positive with twins just due to the 2 babies so we have opted out. We both knew we would not want to take even the relatively small risks of an amnio so if our blood work was positive I would just worry for the next 6 months. Our anatomy ultrasound is in 10 days so fingers crossed our babies still look healthy with 4 chamber hearts and normal brains.
Ugh, sorry to hear about your SIL's insensitive remark. When my BFF Myrtle conceive while she was practically still smoking the post coital cigarette on her honeymoon, my mother asked, "did Myrtle have to 'do anything' to get pregnant" She had S-E-X, I replied still early in my own TTC journey, and still pre-IF evaluation. I still wonder how she'll react when I explain that I had to "do something" if I ever do become pregnant.
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